Hello there! Welcome to my Date Me Doc.

No, I’m not doing this because the apps aren’t working out - rather, it helps me really reflect what I’m looking for, and it helps you figure out if you wanna dedicate more time getting to know me! This is for folks on the apps, and off the apps 😊

The Introduction!

I’m Irsyad - I’m 32 year old dude, native to Singapore. I’m straight, 175cm, monogamous.

Here are some ~pictures~ so that you know I’m an actual person.

There’s a whole bunch I’m gonna plonk on the page, but the summary is as follows:

• I’ve got no kids, no debts, and I spend a lot of time reflecting so that I can be the ~best version of myself~. I’ve not been married before, but I’ve been in a few relationships (3 to be exact, not at the same time of course).
• I’m not particular ‘bout food the vast majority of the time, so am really flexible ‘bout where you’d wanna go (especially vegetarian and vegan places)! The only thing I’m particular about is that I don’t drink, and I don’t take pork or lard.
• I’m also generally primed to say yes to stuff, and really lean into uncomfortable scenarios and new experiences - and I’ve yet to regret leaning in! At the same time, I’m also down to chill and relax at home (or at a cafe) if that’s what you’re into ☺️.
• That said, while I hold space for spontaneity, I’m someone who is a fan of integrating more regular things into my life (e.g. I have a tech study group on Saturdays, I go for badminton any morning we can secure a slot, I spend Sunday mornings at Bedok Reservoir), so beyond being spontaneous I’m also primed to be consistent (with you? 🫣)
• I don’t have a TikTok account, so for the most part I have not succumbed to having a short attention span (Instagram isn’t helping but the quality of recommendations are bad so it’s much easier to snap out of it).
• I also spent a lot of time in uni doing training for negotiations and conflict management, and alongside being a ~generally reflective individual~ while also being more compromising in my conflict handling approach, you can be sure that I’m not gonna lock up and sulk or whatever 🙃
• I feel my English quite good lah hor (my Malay is terrible and I don’t speak any other languages - will find space to work on it!).

More ‘bout me

My interests, lifestyle, and ~vibe~

[WIP sorry]

My philosophy

Obviously, every aspect of ones’ being is a rabbit hole to be explored, so this section will be quite brief.

Right now, 3 articles encompass the main thoughts I have regarding navigating this stage of life:

The arrival fallacy: why we should decouple our happiness from our goals

“When I achieve this goal, then I will be happy.” We often mistakenly believe that achieving our goals will make us happy. That tendency is called the arrival fallacy.

nesslabs.com

How to be More Agentic

On a supposedly difficult thing

usefulfictions.substack.com

Learn In Public

The fastest way to build your expertise, network, and second brain.

www.swyx.io

Additionally, [SORRY THIS SECTION WORK IN PROGRESS]

• Family:
• Friends
• Impact (in relation to work & politics):
• Money
• Religion

What I’m looking for [ALSO WIP SORRY]

[will finish]

Hit me up?

If you’ve actually got to this point of the document - that’s pretty wild I’m glad you made it all the way through! If you’re not scared away at this point still keen to chat, the best way to reach out is via Telegram @shudshudshud. Not too comfortable posting my number on the internet, so if you don’t have Telegram, email is honestly the next best way to reach me (admin@irsyadramthan.com).

Thanks for reading!

Got the inspiration for this from a similar thing done by someone I do not know that made quite a splash back in 2023.