Hello there! Welcome to my Date Me Doc.
No, Iām not doing this because the apps arenāt working out - rather, it helps me really reflect what Iām looking for, and it helps you figure out if you wanna dedicate more time getting to know me! This is for folks on the apps, and off the apps š
The Introduction!
Iām Irsyad - Iām 32 year old dude, native to Singapore. Iām straight, 175cm, monogamous.
Here are some ~pictures~ so that you know Iām an actual person.
The main points:
- Iāve got no kids, no debts, and I spend a lot of time reflecting so that I can be the āØbest version of myselfāØ.
- Iāve not been married before, but Iāve been in a few relationships (3 to be exact, not at the same time of course).
- Iām not particular ābout food the vast majority of the time, so am really flexible ābout where youād wanna go (especially vegetarian and vegan places)! The only thing Iām particular about is that I donāt drink, and I donāt take pork or lard (though I donāt have qualms being with someone who does).
- Iām also generally primed to say yes to stuff, and really lean into uncomfortable scenarios and new experiences - and Iāve yet to regret leaning in! At the same time, Iām also down to chill and relax (and read) at home (or at a cafe) if thatās what youāre into āŗļø.
- That said, while I hold space for spontaneity, Iām someone who is a fan of integrating more regular things into my life (e.g. I have a tech study group on Saturdays, I go for badminton any morning we can secure a slot, I swim Tuesday and Friday mornings, and I spend Sunday mornings at
Bedok ReservoirBukit Timah), so beyond being spontaneous Iām also primed to be consistent (with you? š«£) - I donāt have a TikTok account, so for the most part I have not succumbed to having a short attention span (Instagram isnāt helping but the quality of recommendations are bad so itās much easier to snap out of it).
- I also spent a lot of time in uni doing training for negotiations and conflict management, and alongside being a āØgenerally reflective individualāØ while also being more compromising in my conflict handling approach, you can be sure that Iām not gonna lock up and sulk or whatever š
- I feel my English quite good lah hor (my Malay is terrible and I donāt speak any other languages - will find space to work on it!). Iām also actively learning Mandarin, with hopes of clearing HSK1 by the end of the year!
Some (main) interests of mine
š¶ Music
I like to sing and guitar, though I donāt consider myself particularly good. Still, some of it is online!
āļø Boardgames
Regular games include Ticket To Ride, Power Grid, Wingspan (when people insist š), Heat, Letās Go To Japan (EXTREMELY charming game) and Iāve grown quite a liking to Spirit Island (and would LOVE to play it more).
Our main haunt is here (tho we do play at each othersā places too):
ā°ļøš¤ļø Adventure
Been meaning to hike a bunch more, but generally I like the process of going from point A to point B and documenting that process.
Example here!
š¤æ also going for open water certification in May - wish me luck
Other interests!
The above 3 represent more ābedrockā interests, but I also consider myself to be a maker, a bring-people-together-er, and extremely comfortable interacting with complete strangers on a regular basis (as a relatively new extrovert) (so long as they are kind and/or interesting).
(itās also a life goal of mine to create the perfect nasi goreng pattaya).
Things Iāll be happy to talk about!
Obviously, every aspect of onesā being is a rabbit hole to be explored, so this section will be quite brief.
For one, Iām happy to talk about the more āØphilosophical elements of how I live lifeāØ.
Right now, 3 articles encompass the main thoughts I have regarding navigating this stage of life, but I have a feeling these will evolve quite a bit going into 2025ā¦
Generally, it matters to me a lot that Iām not just self-sufficient, but am able to provide my future partner with a sense of stability on top of embarking on my personal ambitions.
Additionally, I am more than happy to go into shocking detail about any of the following!
- Family (current and future)
- Friends
- Impact (in relation to work & other things)
- Money
- Religion
- ā¦anything else really - I have an open book policy, and seek coherence in thought and deed
Hit me up?
If youāve actually got to this point of the document - thatās pretty wild Iām glad you made it all the way through! If youāre not scared away at this point still keen to chat, the best way to reach out is via Telegram @shudshudshud. Not too comfortable posting my number on the internet, so if you donāt have Telegram, email is honestly the next best way to reach me (admin@irsyadramthan.com).
Thanks for reading!
Got the inspiration for this from a similar thing done by someone I do not know that made quite a splash back in 2023.